It Starts With Me – Relationship Rehab

Matthew 7:12 says, “ So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”

 

This verse is known as the Golden Rule. It is often quoted. Widely understood. Easily recognized. But seldom practiced. Jesus, teaching us how to relate to people, instructs us to do to others as we would have them do to us. He was instructing us that in our relationships, the burden of responsibility lies with us first. The burden of responsibility lies with us first to be kind, regardless of whether or not the other person is kind. The burden of responsibility lies with us first to be merciful, regardless of whether or not the other person is merciful. The burden of responsibility lies with us first to be honorable, even if the other person is dishonorable. Jesus is clear, that we are to take up that responsibility and treat others as we would want to be treated.

 

Notice that Jesus didn’t say, “do to others as they have done to you.” That would be called revenge and retaliation. Notice that Jesus didn’t even say, “do to others as they deserve.” He said, do to others as you would have them do to you. This becomes quite a difficult thing to do at times because our minds say that the logical thing to do is to treat people as they’ve treated you. The logical thing to do is to treat others as they deserve. But let me ask you a question.

 

What if Jesus had this mentality? What if he treated us like we deserve. What if he waited to love us until we first loved him? What if he waited to be merciful until we were first merciful. What if he waited to be kind until we were first kind? If Jesus would have had this mentality, none of us would be here right now. By saying, “do to others what you would have them do to you,” Jesus was teaching us how to be like him.

 

In my relationships, I want to be like Christ. I want to be a Christ like husband. I want to be a Christ like father. I want to be a Christ like friend. If we are going to be Christ like in our relationships, then we’ve got to come to the realization and accept the fact that it starts with me. The burden of responsibility lies first with me to treat others as I would want to be treated. If I want my relationships to be God honoring, productive and meaningful, it starts with me.

 

Pastor Rob


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